解:$(1)A$不是直线$l$的$''$伴侣点$'' ,$理由:
∵$A(-1,$$a),$∴易得点$A$到直线$l$的距离为$2$
∵$2>1,$∴$A$不是直线$l$的$''$伴侣点$''$
$(2)B$是直线$l$的$''$伴侣点$'' ,$理由:
∵$C(-\frac 12,$$a - 1),$且由题意,得$F(1,$$a + b),$∴横坐标加$\frac 32,$纵坐标加$b + 1$
∴$D(\frac 12,$$a + b + 1),$$E(b+\frac 32,$$2a + b + 1)$
∵点$E$落在$x$轴上,∴$2a + b + 1 = 0$
∵$\triangle MF {D}$的面积为$\frac 1{12},$∴$\frac 12×\frac 12×|a + b|=\frac 1{12}$
∴$a + b = \pm \frac 13$
$①$当$a + b=\frac 13$时,与$2a + b + 1 = 0$联立,解得$a = -\frac 43,$$b = \frac 53,$此时$B(\frac 53,$$-\frac 83)$
∵$\frac 53-1=\frac 23<1,$∴$B$是直线$l$的$''$伴侣点$''$
$②$当$a + b = -\frac 13$时,同理,可得$a = -\frac 23,$$b = \frac 13,$此时$B(\frac 13,$$-\frac 43)$
∵$1-\frac 13=\frac 23<1,$∴$B$是直线$l$的$''$伴侣点$''$
综上所述,$B$是直线$l$的$''$伴侣点$''$