解:$(1)PN = 2BM。$证明如下:
如图①,过点$P $作$PF// AC,$分别交$BC,$$BD$于$F,$$E$两点
则$∠PF B=∠C,$$∠BPE=∠A = 45°$
∵$BD\perp AC,$∴$PF\perp BD$
∴$∠BEP=∠BEF = 90°$
∴$∠P BE = 90°-∠BPE = 45°,$即$∠P BE=∠BPE$
∴$BE = PE$
∵$PM\perp BC,$∴$∠PMB = 90°。$
∴$∠BNM+∠EBF=∠PNE+∠EPN = 90°$
$ $又$∠BNM=∠PNE,$∴$∠EBF=∠EPN$
$ $又$∠PEN=∠BEF = 90°,$∴$\triangle PEN≌\triangle BEF(AS A)$
∴$PN = BF$
∵$AB = AC,$∴$∠ABC=∠C$
∴$∠ABC=∠PF B$
∴$P B = PF$
∵$PM\perp BF,$∴$BF = 2BM$
∴$PN = 2BM$
$ (2)$成立。证明如下:
如图②,过点$P $作$PF// AC,$交$CB$的延长线于点$E,$
交$DB$的延长线于点$F,$则$∠E=∠C,$$∠BPF=∠A = 45°$
∵$PM\perp BC,$∴$∠BMN = 90°$
∵$BD\perp AC,$∴$∠ADB = 90°,$$BD\perp PF,$
即$∠BFE=∠BFP = 90°,$$∠ABD = 90°-∠A = 45°$
∴$∠P BF=∠ABD = 45°$
∴$∠P BF=∠BPF$
∴$BF = PF$
∵$∠EBF+∠BNM=∠NPF+∠PNF = 90°,$
且$∠BNM=∠PNF,$∴$∠EBF=∠NPF$
$ $又$∠BFE=∠PFN,$∴$\triangle BFE≌\triangle PFN(AS A)$
∴$BE = PN$
∵$AB = AC,$∴$∠ABC=∠C$
∴$∠E=∠ABC$
$ $又$∠ABC=∠P BE,$∴$∠E=∠P BE$
∴$PE = P B$
∵$PM\perp EB,$∴$BE = 2BM$
∴$PN = 2BM$