四、阅读理解
I've noticed that conversations with my children have started to turn into something that I don't like. It could be my fault(过错). I don't always think before I open my mouth.
For example,my kids would call me to tell me about something that's been worrying them. Then,as soon as they've finished,I go into mum mode(模式). I can't help it. It's my default setting(默认设置).
“You should...” “You need to consider...” “Have you thought of...” “If I were you,I'd...”
“Mum!” The tone(语气)is full of frustration(沮丧)and anger. The meaning is obvious(明显的)— “Stop!”
I am the queen of unwanted advice. When I get one of my adult kids on the phone,I become an expert(专家)on everything and anything,which I'm obviously not.
I want to be part of their lives. More importantly,I want to prevent them from making mistakes that seem so obvious to me. But they just want a listening ear and an open heart.
I'm hardly alone in this. Over lunch the other day,a friend told me that her son rarely listened to anything she said. “It's like talking to a wall,” she added.
I know that feeling all too well. But I'm learning — very slowly — that talking at is not the same as talking with.
Giving advice to children can be full of problems. Though we may see ourselves sharing the wisdom of our years,they see something else. They see a controlling parent who hasn't accepted the fact that they're adults with their own thoughts and feelings.
They're not looking for any tips or advice. They may not even want an immediate(立刻的)solution(解决办法)to a difficult problem. What they're hoping for is a safe place to talk with a person who loves and supports them no matter what.
Because of this,I've given myself the goal(目标)of becoming a better parent by being a better listener. It's not an easy task for parents like me who think they're just being helpful. But I'm determined(坚定的),and I'm strong.
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A. It's the best way of communication.
B. Her kids like it very much.
C. It's just hard for her to stop it.
D. It makes her and her children close.
(
A. Because the advice cannot solve the problem.
B. Because children can't learn to be independent(独立的).
C. Because parents love to show off their wisdom.
D. Because parents and kids want different things.
(
A. Be more helpful. B. Lend a listening ear.
C. Be patient when talking. D. Stop giving any advice.
I've noticed that conversations with my children have started to turn into something that I don't like. It could be my fault(过错). I don't always think before I open my mouth.
For example,my kids would call me to tell me about something that's been worrying them. Then,as soon as they've finished,I go into mum mode(模式). I can't help it. It's my default setting(默认设置).
“You should...” “You need to consider...” “Have you thought of...” “If I were you,I'd...”
“Mum!” The tone(语气)is full of frustration(沮丧)and anger. The meaning is obvious(明显的)— “Stop!”
I am the queen of unwanted advice. When I get one of my adult kids on the phone,I become an expert(专家)on everything and anything,which I'm obviously not.
I want to be part of their lives. More importantly,I want to prevent them from making mistakes that seem so obvious to me. But they just want a listening ear and an open heart.
I'm hardly alone in this. Over lunch the other day,a friend told me that her son rarely listened to anything she said. “It's like talking to a wall,” she added.
I know that feeling all too well. But I'm learning — very slowly — that talking at is not the same as talking with.
Giving advice to children can be full of problems. Though we may see ourselves sharing the wisdom of our years,they see something else. They see a controlling parent who hasn't accepted the fact that they're adults with their own thoughts and feelings.
They're not looking for any tips or advice. They may not even want an immediate(立刻的)solution(解决办法)to a difficult problem. What they're hoping for is a safe place to talk with a person who loves and supports them no matter what.
Because of this,I've given myself the goal(目标)of becoming a better parent by being a better listener. It's not an easy task for parents like me who think they're just being helpful. But I'm determined(坚定的),and I'm strong.
(
C
)1. What can we know about the writer's “mum mode”? A. It's the best way of communication.
B. Her kids like it very much.
C. It's just hard for her to stop it.
D. It makes her and her children close.
(
D
)2. Why can giving advice to children cause problems? A. Because the advice cannot solve the problem.
B. Because children can't learn to be independent(独立的).
C. Because parents love to show off their wisdom.
D. Because parents and kids want different things.
(
B
)3. What has the writer finally decided to do? A. Be more helpful. B. Lend a listening ear.
C. Be patient when talking. D. Stop giving any advice.
答案：【解析】：本题主要考查了阅读理解的能力，包括细节理解、推理判断等。
1. 第一题询问的是关于作者的“妈妈模式”我们能知道什么。根据文章中的“Then,as soon as they've finished,I go into mum mode(模式). I can't help it. It's my default setting(默认设置).”可知，作者一听到孩子们说完，就会进入“妈妈模式”，情不自禁地给出建议，这是她的默认设置，很难停止。因此，选项C“她很难停止”是正确的。
2. 第二题询问的是为什么给孩子提建议会引起问题。根据文章中的“Though we may see ourselves sharing the wisdom of our years,they see something else. They see a controlling parent who hasn't accepted the fact that they're adults with their own thoughts and feelings.”以及“They're not looking for any tips or advice. They may not even want an immediate(立刻的)solution(解决办法)to a difficult problem. What they're hoping for is a safe place to talk with a person who loves and supports them no matter what.”可知，父母和孩子想要的东西不同，父母可能认为自己是在分享智慧，而孩子看到的是控制欲强的父母，他们只希望有一个安全的地方和一个爱他们、支持他们的人交谈，而不是寻求建议或解决办法。因此，选项D“因为父母和孩子想要的东西不同”是正确的。
3. 第三题询问的是作者最终决定做什么。根据文章中的“Because of this,I've given myself the goal(目标)of becoming a better parent by being a better listener.”可知，作者决定通过成为一个更好的倾听者来成为一个更好的父母。因此，选项B“倾听”是正确的。
【答案】：
1. C
2. D
3. B
1. 第一题询问的是关于作者的“妈妈模式”我们能知道什么。根据文章中的“Then,as soon as they've finished,I go into mum mode(模式). I can't help it. It's my default setting(默认设置).”可知，作者一听到孩子们说完，就会进入“妈妈模式”，情不自禁地给出建议，这是她的默认设置，很难停止。因此，选项C“她很难停止”是正确的。
2. 第二题询问的是为什么给孩子提建议会引起问题。根据文章中的“Though we may see ourselves sharing the wisdom of our years,they see something else. They see a controlling parent who hasn't accepted the fact that they're adults with their own thoughts and feelings.”以及“They're not looking for any tips or advice. They may not even want an immediate(立刻的)solution(解决办法)to a difficult problem. What they're hoping for is a safe place to talk with a person who loves and supports them no matter what.”可知，父母和孩子想要的东西不同，父母可能认为自己是在分享智慧，而孩子看到的是控制欲强的父母，他们只希望有一个安全的地方和一个爱他们、支持他们的人交谈，而不是寻求建议或解决办法。因此，选项D“因为父母和孩子想要的东西不同”是正确的。
3. 第三题询问的是作者最终决定做什么。根据文章中的“Because of this,I've given myself the goal(目标)of becoming a better parent by being a better listener.”可知，作者决定通过成为一个更好的倾听者来成为一个更好的父母。因此，选项B“倾听”是正确的。
【答案】：
1. C
2. D
3. B