$解:|\dfrac{3a²}{a²-4b²} -\dfrac {a}{a+2b}|=| \dfrac{3a²}{(a+2b)(a-2b)}-\dfrac {a(a-2b)}{(a+2b)(a-2b)}|\ $
$=|\dfrac{3a²-a²+2ab)}{(a+2b)(a-2b)}|$
$=|\dfrac{2a²+2ab}{a²-4b²} |.$
$∵a、b均为非零实数,且分式\dfrac{3a²}{a²-4b²}与\dfrac{a}{a+2b}属于“友好分式组”,$
$∴ |\dfrac{2a²+2ab}{a²-4b²}|=2,$
$∴2a²+2ab=2(a²-4b²)$
$或2a²+2ab=-2(a²-4b²).$
$∴a=-4b或ab=4b²-2a².\ $
$把a=-4b代入\dfrac {a²-2b²}{ab}$
$得 \dfrac{16b²-2b²}{-4b²}=-\dfrac{7}{2};\ $
$把ab=4b²-2a²代入\dfrac {a²-2b²}{ab}$
$得 \dfrac{a²-2b²}{4b²-2a²}=\dfrac{a²-2b²}{-2(a²-2b²)} =\dfrac{1}{2},\ $
$∴\dfrac{a²-2b²}{ab}的值为-\dfrac{7}{2}或-\dfrac{1}{2}.$