$解:(3)对待求式利用平方差公式变形,得$
$\frac {x^2-3xy}{(x+y)(x-y)}+\frac {y}{x-y}$
$通分,得$
$\frac {x^2-3xy+y(x+y)}{(x+y)(x-y)}$
$去括号,得$
$\frac {x^2-3xy+xy+y^2}{(x+y)(x-y)}$
$合并同类项,得$
$\frac {x^2-2xy+y^2}{(x+y)(x-y)}$
$由完全平方公式,得$
$\frac {(x-y)^2}{(x+y)(x-y)}$
$约分,得$
$\frac {x-y}{x+y}$
$结合(2)中所得,分别将符合条件的$
$(x、y)代入上式计算,得$
$-\frac {1}{3}、-3、\frac {1}{3}、3$
$所以使分式的值为整数的(x,y)出现的概率=\frac {2}{9}.$