$ (1)$证明:∵$AE = DB$
∴$AE + EB = DB + EB,$即$AB = DE$
∵$∠C = ∠F = 90°$
∴$\triangle ABC$和$\triangle DEF $都是直角三角形
$ $在$Rt\triangle ABC$和$Rt\triangle DEF $中
$\begin {cases}AB = DE\\BC = EF\end {cases}$
∴$Rt\triangle ABC≌ Rt\triangle DEF(\mathrm {HL})$
$ (2)$解:∵$∠C = 90°,$$∠A = 50°$
∴$∠ABC = 180°-∠C-∠A = 40°$
$ $由$(1)$得$Rt\triangle ABC≌ Rt\triangle DEF$
∴$∠ABC = ∠DEF$
∴$∠DEF = 40°$
∴$∠COE = ∠ABC+∠DEF = 80°$