解:$(1)$∵$\triangle ABE$和$\triangle ACD$都是等边三角形
∴$AB = AE,$$AC = AD,$
$∠B = ∠BAE = ∠CAD = 60°$
∴$∠BAE+∠CAE = ∠CAD+∠CAE,$
即$∠BAC = ∠EAD$
在$\triangle BAC$和$\triangle EAD$中
$\begin {cases}AB = AE\\∠BAC=∠EAD\\AC = AD\end {cases}$
∴$\triangle BAC≌\triangle EAD(S AS)$
∴$∠B = ∠AED,$$BC = ED,$即$∠AED = 60°$
$(2)\triangle AMN$是等边三角形, 理由如下:
由$(1)$得$∠B = ∠BAE = ∠AED = 60°,$
$BC = ED,$$AB = AE$
又$M,$$N$分别是线段$BC$和$DE$的中点
∴$BM=\frac 12BC,$$EN=\frac 12ED,$即$BM = EN$
在$\triangle ABM$和$\triangle AEN$中
$\begin {cases}AB = AE\\∠B=∠AEN\\BM = EN\end {cases}$
∴$\triangle ABM≌\triangle AEN(S AS)$
∴$AM = AN,$$∠BAM = ∠EAN$
∴$∠BAM-∠EAM = ∠EAN-∠EAM,$
即$∠BAE = ∠MAN,$即$∠MAN = 60°$
∴$\triangle AMN$是等边三角形