解:$(1) $设直线$l_{1}$的函数表达式为$y = kx + b$
由题意,将$A(6,$$0),$$B(0,$$8)$两点分别代入
得$\begin {cases}6k + b = 0\\b = 8\end {cases},$解得$\begin {cases}k = -\frac 43\\b = 8\end {cases}$
∴直线$l_{1}$的函数表达式为$y = -\frac 43x + 8$
$ (3) $由$(1),$得直线$l_{1}$的函数表达式为$y = -\frac 43x + 8$
∴直线$EF $的函数表达式为$y = -\frac 43(x - 3)+8=-\frac 43x + 12$
$ $令$x = 0,$得$y = 12;$令$y = 0,$得$-\frac 43x + 12 = 0,$解得$x = 9$
∴点$F $的坐标为$(0,$$12),$点$E$的坐标为$(9,$$0),$即$OE = 9,$$OF = 12$
又$S_{四边形BAEF}=S_{\triangle EFO}-S_{\triangle ABO}$
∴$S_{四边形BAEF}=\frac 12×9×12-\frac 12×6×8 = 30$
$ (4) $存在,由$(2),$得$OA = 6,$$OB = 8$
当$∠ABP = 90°,$$AB = BP $时,如图①
过点$P $作$PM\perp y$轴于点$M,$易证$\triangle BMP≌\triangle AOB(\mathrm {AAS})$
∴$BM = AO = 6,$$PM = BO = 8$
∴$OM = OB + BM = 14,$∴点$P $的坐标为$(8,$$14);$
当$∠BAP = 90°,$$AB = AP $时,如图②
过点$P $作$PN\perp x$轴于点$N,$易证$\triangle PNA≌\triangle AOB(\mathrm {AAS})$
∴$PN = AO = 6,$$AN = BO = 8$
∴$ON = OA + AN = 14,$∴点$P $的坐标为$(14,$$6);$
当$∠AP B = 90°,$$BP = AP $时,如图③
$ $过点$P $分别作$PG\perp x$轴于点$G,$$PH\perp y$轴于点$H$
易证$\triangle AGP≌\triangle BHP(\mathrm {AAS}),$∴$AG = BH,$$PG = PH$
易得四边形$OHPG $是长方形,∴$OH = PG,$$OG = PH,$即$OH = OG$
∴$OB - BH = OA + AG,$即$8 - BH = 6 + AG$
∴$BH = AG = 1,$∴$OG = 7 = PH = PG$
∴点$P $的坐标为$(7,$$7)$
综上,点$P $的坐标为$(8,$$14)$或$(14,$$6)$或$(7,$$7)$