解:$(1)$∵$\sqrt 9<\sqrt {11}<\sqrt {16},$即$3 < \sqrt {11}< 4$
∴$\sqrt {11}$的整数部分是$3,$小数部分是$\sqrt {11}-3$
$ (2)$∵$3 < \sqrt {11}< 4,$∴$-4<-\sqrt {11}<-3$
则$11 - 4<11-\sqrt {11}<11 - 3,$即$7<11-\sqrt {11}<8$
∴$11-\sqrt {11}$的整数部分是$7,$小数部分$m = 11-\sqrt {11}-7 = 4-\sqrt {11}$
又∵$3 < \sqrt {11}< 4$
∴$11 + 3<11+\sqrt {11}<11 + 4,$即$14<11+\sqrt {11}<15$
∴$11+\sqrt {11}$的整数部分是$14,$小数部分$n = 11+\sqrt {11}-14=\sqrt {11}-3$
∴$m + n=(4-\sqrt {11})+(\sqrt {11}-3)=4-\sqrt {11}+\sqrt {11}-3 = 1$
∵$1$是有理数,∴$m + n$是有理数