$3.$解$:$因为$\frac {x-a-b-c}{d}+\frac {x-a-b-d}{c}+\frac {x-a-c-d}{b}+\frac {x-b-c-d}{a}=4$
所以$ \frac {x-a-b-c}{d}+\frac {x-a-b-d}{c} +\frac {x-a-c-d}{b}+\frac {x-b-c-d}{a}-4=0$
所以$\frac {x-a-b-c}{d}-1+\frac {x-a-b-d}{c}-1+\frac {x-a-c-d}{b}-1+\frac {x-b-c-d}{a}-1=0$
所以$\frac {x-a-b-c-d}{d}+\frac {x-a-b-d-c}{c}+\frac {x-a-c-d-b}{b}+\frac {x-b-c-d-a}{a}=0$
所以$(\frac {1}{a}+\frac {1}{b}+\frac {1}{c}+\frac {1}{d})(x-a-b-c-d)=0$
因为$a,b,c,d$是正数
所以$\frac {1}{a}+\frac {1}{b}+\frac {1}{c}+\frac {1}{d}≠0$
所以$x-a-b-c-d=0$
所以$x=a+b+c+d$