解:设AD交EM于点P。
$\because$ 四边形EFGH和四边形HGNM均为正方形,
$\therefore EF=EH=HM,$$EH // FG,$即$EM // BC。$
$\because AD \perp BC,$
$\therefore AP \perp EM,$易得$PD=EF。$
$\because EM // BC,$
$\therefore \triangle AEM \backsim \triangle ABC,$
$\therefore \frac{AP}{AD} = \frac{EM}{BC}。$
$\because AD=5,$$BC=10,$$EM=2EF,$$AP=AD-PD=5-EF,$
$\therefore \frac{5-EF}{5} = \frac{2EF}{10},$解得$EF=\frac{5}{2},$
$\therefore EM=2 \times \frac{5}{2}=5。$
$\because \triangle AEM \backsim \triangle ABC,$
$\therefore \frac{S_{\triangle AEM}}{S_{\triangle ABC}} = \left( \frac{EM}{BC} \right)^2 = \left( \frac{5}{10} \right)^2 = \frac{1}{4},$
$\therefore S_{\text{四边形}BCME} = S_{\triangle ABC} - S_{\triangle AEM} = 3S_{\triangle AEM},$
$\therefore \triangle AEM$与四边形BCME的面积比为$1:3。$