解:$(2) $∵$ a,$$b $互为倒数,∴$ ab = 1。$
∵$ |\frac {3a^2}{a^2+b}-\frac {a - 2b²}{a + b^2}|=|\frac {2a^3+2b^3+4}{a^3+b^3+2}| = 2,$
∴$ $分式$ \frac {3a^2}{a^2+b} $与$ \frac {a - 2b²}{a + b^2} $属于$“$友好分式组$”$
$(3) $∵$ |\frac {3a^2}{a^2-4b^2}-\frac {a}{a + 2b}|=|\frac {3a^2}{(a + 2b)(a - 2b)}-\frac {a(a - 2b)}{(a + 2b)(a - 2b)}|$
$=|\frac {3a^2-a^2+2ab}{(a + 2b)(a - 2b)}|$
$=|\frac {2a^2+2ab}{a^2-4b^2}|,$
又 ∵$ \frac {3a^2}{a^2-4b^2} $与$ \frac {a}{a + 2b} $属于$“$友好分式组$”,$
∴$ |\frac {2a^2+2ab}{a^2-4b^2}| = 2,$
∴$ 2a^2+2ab = 2(a^2-4b^2) $或$ 2a^2+2ab=-2(a^2-4b^2)。$
∴$ a = -4b $或$ ab = 4b^2-2a^2。$若$ a = -4b,$
则$ \frac {a^2-2b^2}{ab}=-\frac {7}{2}。$
若$ ab = 4b^2-2a^2,$则$ \frac {a^2-2b^2}{ab}=-\frac {1}{2}。$
综上所述,$\frac {a^2-2b^2}{ab} $的值为$ -\frac {7}{2} $或$ -\frac {1}{2}$