解:$(3)$因为$a+b=14,$$c=10,$
所以$(a+b)^2=196,$即$a^2+b^2+2ab=196$
$ $由$(2)$知$a^2+b^2=c^2=100,$
则$2ab=196-100=96,$$\frac {1}{2}ab=24,$
即$S_{\triangle ABC}=24$
$ (4) $因为$OB=x,$$OC=y,$$\triangle BOC$的周长为$n,$
所以$BC=n-x-y$
$ $在$Rt\triangle BOC$中,$x^2+y^2=(n-x-y)^2,$
展开化简得$xy=nx+ny-\frac {n^2}{2}$
$ S_{\triangle AOD}=\frac {1}{2}(3-x)(3-y)=\frac {1}{2}[9-3(x+y)+xy],$代入$xy$得:
$ S_{\triangle AOD}=\frac {1}{2}[9-3(x+y)+nx+ny-\frac {n^2}{2}]=\frac {1}{2}[9+(n-3)(x+y)-\frac {n^2}{2}]$
$ $要使$S_{\triangle AOD}$为定值,
则$n-3=0,$即$n=3,$
此时$S_{\triangle AOD}$为定值$\frac {9}{4}$