解:$(2) $由题意,得
${\sqrt [{{3}}] {x}}=\frac {3}{2},$$-\sqrt {y}=-7$
∴$x=\frac {27}{8},y = 49.$
$(3) $当$\sqrt [3]{a}=-4,-\sqrt {b}=-5$时,
解得$a=-64,b = 25,$
∴$a + b=-64 + 25=-39;$
当$\sqrt [3]{a}=-5,-\sqrt {b}=-4$时,
解得$a=-125,b = 16,$
∴$a + b=-125 + 16=-109.$
综上所述,$a + b$的值为$-39$或$-109.$