$解:(1)∵AD//BC$
$∴∠DAO=∠OCB$
$∵∠AOD=∠BOC$
$∴△AOD∽△COB$
$∵△AOD的面积与△BOC的面积之比为1:9$
$∴AD:BC=1:3$
$(2)∵△AOD∽△COB,AD:BC=1:3$
$∴OD:OB=AD:BC=1:3$
$∴S_{△AOD}:S_{△AOB}=1:3$
$∵△AOB的面积为6$
$∴S_{△AOD}=2,S_{△ABD}=8$
$∵S_{△ABD}:S_{△BCD}=AD:BC=1:3$
$∴S_{△BCD}=24$
$∴S_{梯形ABCD}=S_{△ABD}+S△ BCD=32$