解$: (1)$连接$PD,$$BD。$

∵$CP=\frac {1}{3}BC,$$CQ=\frac {1}{3}CD,$$S_{△ PCQ}=4,$
∴$\frac {S_{△ PCQ}}{S_{△ PCD}}=\frac {1}{3},$$\frac {S_{△ PCD}}{S_{△ BCD}}=\frac {1}{3},$
∴$S_{△ PCD}=12,$$S_{△ BCD}=36,$
$ $则$S_{△ BCD}=S_{△ ABD}=36,$
∴四边形$ABCD$的面积为$72。$
$ (2)$证明:连接$BQ,$$BF,$$DE。$
$ $可得$S_{△ BPD}=\frac {2}{3}S_{△ BCD}=24,$$S_{△ BDQ}=\frac {2}{3}S_{△ BCD}=24,$
∴$PQ// BD,$同理可得$S_{△ BED}=S_{△ BFD}=12,$
∴$EF// BD,$
∴$PQ// BD// EF,$即$PQ// EF。$