解:(1) $\because BD,$$CE$都是$△ ABC$的角平分线,
$\therefore ∠ DBC=∠ ABD=\frac{1}{2}∠ ABC,$$∠ ECB=∠ ACE=\frac{1}{2}∠ ACB,$
$\therefore ∠ DBC+∠ ECB=\frac{1}{2}(∠ ABC+∠ ACB)=\frac{1}{2}(180°-∠ A)=90°-\frac{1}{2}∠ A,$
$\therefore ∠ BOC=180°-(∠ DBC+∠ ECB)=180°-(90°-\frac{1}{2}∠ A)=90°+\frac{1}{2}∠ A,$
又$\because ∠ BOC-∠ A=54°,$即$90°+\frac{1}{2}∠ A-∠ A=54°,$
$\therefore ∠ A=72°,$
$\therefore ∠ BOC=90°+\frac{1}{2}∠ A=90°+36°=126°。$
(2) $\because BD,$$CE$都是$△ ABC$的高,
$\therefore ∠ ADB=∠ AEC=90°,$
$\because ∠ A+∠ ADB+∠ DOE+∠ AEC=360°,$
$\therefore ∠ A+90°+∠ DOE+90°=360°,$
$\therefore ∠ A=180°-∠ DOE,$
$\because ∠ DOE=∠ BOC,$
$\therefore ∠ A=180°-∠ BOC,$
$\because ∠ BOC-∠ A=54°,$
$\therefore ∠ BOC-(180°-∠ BOC)=54°,$
$\therefore ∠ BOC=117°。$
(3) $∠ ODC-∠ BEO=18°,$理由如下:
$\because ∠ BEO=∠ A+∠ ACE,$
$\therefore ∠ BOC=∠ BEO+∠ ABD=∠ A+∠ ACE+∠ ABD,$
$\therefore ∠ BOC-∠ A=∠ ACE+∠ ABD,$
$\because ∠ BOC-∠ A=54°,$$∠ ABD=2∠ ACE,$
$\therefore 54°=∠ ACE+2∠ ACE,$
$\therefore ∠ ACE=18°,$
$\therefore ∠ ABD=2×18°=36°,$
$\because ∠ BOC=∠ ODC+∠ DCO=∠ BEO+∠ ABD,$
$\therefore ∠ BEO+36°=∠ ODC+18°,$
$\therefore ∠ ODC-∠ BEO=18°。$