F
“What do you think I should do?” asks your friend, as she sits beside you, waiting for your advice. This is no easy situation. Say something your friend disagrees with or something helpless, and you might feel you've disappointed her.
It's human nature to want to offer solutions when someone comes to you with a problem. It's also easy to fall into the trap of simply saying that “Everything will be OK”. 1 But we often say that because we believe we need to say something. This is because we're glad that our friend has come to us for help, even if we don't really think we're able to give it. 2 The answer is yes... if it's done in the right way.
In fact, friends often really only want someone to listen to them. It's important to try to work out whether they're actually asking for advice, or simply wanting to talk over whatever is going round in their head. 3 There's no harm in asking whether they'd like you to give suggestions.
It's also important to be honest. If you're unable to think of a way to solve your friend's problem, just say so. Your friend won't feel upset, and you can still listen carefully and try to put yourself in their shoes. 4 You can ask yourself “What would I do if I were to experience the same thing?” Later you can go back to your friend with a few helpful suggestions.
5 It can be hard to listen to your friend going over and over the same thing without being able to help them. They will certainly be thankful if you just allow them to “talk it out”, though. Maybe they're building up courage to take action, and need to convince (说服) themselves they're doing the right thing. Just being there for them may be all you have to do to make things better.
A. Friendship is the most important to us.
B. This is not actually useful for your friend.
C. So is it a good idea to try to give advice at all?
D. You can find someone else to ask for their ideas.
E. Sometimes a problem doesn't go away overnight.
F. Talking may make people feel better all by themselves.
G. Then you can go away and try to think of something helpful.
“What do you think I should do?” asks your friend, as she sits beside you, waiting for your advice. This is no easy situation. Say something your friend disagrees with or something helpless, and you might feel you've disappointed her.
It's human nature to want to offer solutions when someone comes to you with a problem. It's also easy to fall into the trap of simply saying that “Everything will be OK”. 1 But we often say that because we believe we need to say something. This is because we're glad that our friend has come to us for help, even if we don't really think we're able to give it. 2 The answer is yes... if it's done in the right way.
In fact, friends often really only want someone to listen to them. It's important to try to work out whether they're actually asking for advice, or simply wanting to talk over whatever is going round in their head. 3 There's no harm in asking whether they'd like you to give suggestions.
It's also important to be honest. If you're unable to think of a way to solve your friend's problem, just say so. Your friend won't feel upset, and you can still listen carefully and try to put yourself in their shoes. 4 You can ask yourself “What would I do if I were to experience the same thing?” Later you can go back to your friend with a few helpful suggestions.
5 It can be hard to listen to your friend going over and over the same thing without being able to help them. They will certainly be thankful if you just allow them to “talk it out”, though. Maybe they're building up courage to take action, and need to convince (说服) themselves they're doing the right thing. Just being there for them may be all you have to do to make things better.
A. Friendship is the most important to us.
B. This is not actually useful for your friend.
C. So is it a good idea to try to give advice at all?
D. You can find someone else to ask for their ideas.
E. Sometimes a problem doesn't go away overnight.
F. Talking may make people feel better all by themselves.
G. Then you can go away and try to think of something helpful.
答案：1—5 BCFGE
解析：
翻译:
F
“你觉得我该怎么办？”你的朋友坐在你旁边问道，她正等着你的建议。这种情况可不轻松。说一些你的朋友不认同或者无济于事的话，你可能会觉得让她失望了。
当有人带着问题来找你时，想要提供解决方案是人的天性。我们也很容易陷入只说“一切都会好起来的”这种陷阱。1但我们经常这么说，是因为我们觉得自己得说点什么。这是因为我们很高兴朋友来找我们寻求帮助，即使我们真的觉得自己无法提供帮助。2答案是肯定的……只要方法得当。
事实上，朋友们很多时候真的只是想要有人倾听他们。试着弄清楚他们到底是在寻求建议，还是只是想把脑海里的事情说出来，这一点很重要。3问问他们是否希望你给出建议，这并没有什么坏处。
诚实也很重要。如果你想不出解决你朋友问题的办法，就直说。你的朋友不会感到难过，而且你仍然可以认真倾听，并试着设身处地为他们着想。4你可以问问自己“如果我经历同样的事情，我会怎么做？”之后你可以带着一些有用的建议回到你朋友身边。
5听你的朋友一遍又一遍地说同一件事却无法帮助他们，这可能会很难。不过，如果你只是让他们“把事情说出来”，他们肯定会很感激的。也许他们正在鼓起勇气采取行动，并且需要说服自己他们正在做正确的事情。只要在他们身边，也许就是你能做的让事情变得更好的全部了。
A. 友谊对我们来说是最重要的。
B. 这实际上对你的朋友没有用。
C. 那么尝试给出建议到底是不是个好主意呢？
D. 你可以找别人问问他们的想法。
E. 有时候问题不会一夜之间就消失。
F. 倾诉本身可能会让人感觉更好。
G. 然后你可以离开，试着想一些有用的办法。
F
“你觉得我该怎么办？”你的朋友坐在你旁边问道，她正等着你的建议。这种情况可不轻松。说一些你的朋友不认同或者无济于事的话，你可能会觉得让她失望了。
当有人带着问题来找你时，想要提供解决方案是人的天性。我们也很容易陷入只说“一切都会好起来的”这种陷阱。1但我们经常这么说，是因为我们觉得自己得说点什么。这是因为我们很高兴朋友来找我们寻求帮助，即使我们真的觉得自己无法提供帮助。2答案是肯定的……只要方法得当。
事实上，朋友们很多时候真的只是想要有人倾听他们。试着弄清楚他们到底是在寻求建议，还是只是想把脑海里的事情说出来，这一点很重要。3问问他们是否希望你给出建议，这并没有什么坏处。
诚实也很重要。如果你想不出解决你朋友问题的办法，就直说。你的朋友不会感到难过，而且你仍然可以认真倾听，并试着设身处地为他们着想。4你可以问问自己“如果我经历同样的事情，我会怎么做？”之后你可以带着一些有用的建议回到你朋友身边。
5听你的朋友一遍又一遍地说同一件事却无法帮助他们，这可能会很难。不过，如果你只是让他们“把事情说出来”，他们肯定会很感激的。也许他们正在鼓起勇气采取行动，并且需要说服自己他们正在做正确的事情。只要在他们身边，也许就是你能做的让事情变得更好的全部了。
A. 友谊对我们来说是最重要的。
B. 这实际上对你的朋友没有用。
C. 那么尝试给出建议到底是不是个好主意呢？
D. 你可以找别人问问他们的想法。
E. 有时候问题不会一夜之间就消失。
F. 倾诉本身可能会让人感觉更好。
G. 然后你可以离开，试着想一些有用的办法。