解:$(1) ②BM=4MN$,理由如下:
∵$AP=8\ \mathrm {cm}$,$AB=32\ \mathrm {cm}$,∴$BP=24\ \mathrm {cm} $
当$t=8$时,点$M$,$N$同时到达点$B$
$ $当$0<t≤2$时,$AM=4t\mathrm {cm}$,$PN=3t\mathrm {cm}$,$MP=(8-4t)\mathrm {cm}$
∴$MN=MP+NP=8-4t+3t=(8-t)\mathrm {cm}$
∵$BM=32-4t=4(8-t)\mathrm {cm}$
∴$BM=4MN$
当$2<t<8$时,$AM=4t\mathrm {cm}$,$PN=3t\mathrm {cm}$,$MP=(4t-8)\mathrm {cm}$
∴$MN=PN-PM=3t-(4t-8)=(8-t)\mathrm {cm}$
∵$BM=32-4t=4(8-t)\mathrm {cm}$
∴$BM=4MN$
$ $当$t>8$时,$AM=4t\mathrm {cm}$,$PN=3t\mathrm {cm}$,$AN=(8+3t)\mathrm {cm}$
∴$MN=AM-AN=4t-8-3t=(t-8)\mathrm {cm}$
∵$BM=4t-32=4(t-8)\mathrm {cm}$,∴$BM=4MN$
综上所述,$BM=4MN$
$(2)$当点$M$在点$B$的左边,点$N$在点$M$的左边时
$AP=32-4-3-\frac {32-4}{4}×3=4$,则$\frac {AP}{PB}=\frac {4}{32-4}=\frac {1}{7}$
当点$M$在点$B$的左边,点$N$在点$M$的右边时
$AP=32-4+3-\frac {32-4}{4}×3=10$,则$\frac {AP}{PB}=\frac {10}{32-10}=\frac {5}{11}$
当点$M$在点$B$的右边,点$N$在点$M$的左边时
$AP=32+4-3-\frac {32+4}{4}×3=6$,则$\frac {AP}{PB}=\frac {6}{32-6}=\frac {3}{13}$
$ $当点$M$在点$B$的右边,点$N$在点$M$的右边时
$AP=32+4+3-\frac {32+4}{4}×3=12$,则$\frac {AP}{PB}=\frac {12}{32-12}=\frac {3}{5}$
故$\frac {AP}{PB}$的值为$\frac {1}{7}$或$\frac {5}{11}$或$\frac {3}{13}$或$\frac {3}{5}$