证明:$(1)$∵$DE\perp AB,$∴$∠DEB = 90°$
∵$M$为$BD$的中点,∴$DM = MB$
在$Rt\triangle DEB$中,$EM=\frac 12DB$
∵$∠ACB = 90°$
在$Rt\triangle DCB$中,$CM=\frac 12DB,$∴$CM = EM$
$(3)$连接$AM$
∵$\triangle DAE≌\triangle CEM,$$CM = EM$
∴$AE = EM = CM = DE = DM,$$∠DEA=∠CME = 90°$
∴$\triangle ADE$是等腰直角三角形,$\triangle DEM$是等边三角形
∴$∠DEM=∠DME = 60°,$∴$∠FEM = 30°$
∵$AE = EM,$∴$∠EAM=∠EMA = 15°$
∴$∠AMC=∠CME-∠EMA = 75°$
∵$∠CME = 90°,$$∠DME = 60°,$∴$∠DMC = 30°$
∵$CM = DM,$∴$∠MCD=∠MDC=\frac 12×(180°-30°) = 75°$
∴$∠AMC=∠MCD,$∴$AC = AM$
∵$N$为$CM$的中点,∴$AN\perp CM,$∴$∠ANM = 90°$
∴$∠ANM+∠CME = 180°,$∴$AN//EM$