解:$(1)$∵$\triangle ABC≌\triangle DBE$
∴$∠ABC = ∠DBE,$即$∠ABC - ∠DBC = ∠DBE - ∠DBC$
∴$∠ABD = ∠CBE$
$ $又$∠ABD + ∠DBC + ∠CBE = ∠ABE,$
$∠ABE = 162°,$$∠DBC = 30°$
∴$∠CBE=\frac 12(∠ABE - ∠DBC)=\frac 12(162°-30°) = 66°$
$ (2)$解:∵$AD = DC = 2.5,$$BC = 4,$$\triangle ABC≌\triangle DBE$
∴$BE = BC = 4,$$DE = AC = AD + DC = 2.5 + 2.5 = 5$
$ $又$C_{\triangle CDP}=CD + DP + CP,$$C_{\triangle BEP}=BP + PE + BE$
∴$C_{\triangle CDP}+C_{\triangle BEP}=CD + DP + CP + BP + PE + BE$
$ = CD + BC + DE + BE = 2.5+4 + 5+4 = 15.5$
即$\triangle CDP $与$\triangle BEP $的周长和为$15.5$