证明$:(1)$∵四边形$ ABCD $是平行四边形,
∴$OA = OC,$$AD// BC,$
∴$∠OAF = ∠OCE,$
在$ △ AOF $和$ △ COE $中,
$ \begin {cases}{∠OAF=∠OCE}\\{AO = OC}\\{∠AOF = ∠COE}\end {cases}$
∴$△ AOF≌△ COE(\mathrm {ASA}),$
∴$OE = OF。$
$(2) $成立。证明如下:
∵$ $四边形$ ABCD $是平行四边形,
∴$OA= OC,$$AB// CD,$
∴$∠E = ∠F,$
在$ △ OAE $和$ △ OCF $中,
$ \begin {cases}{∠E=∠F}\\{∠AOE = ∠COF}\\{OA = OC}\end {cases}$
∴$△ OAE≌△ COF(\mathrm {AAS}),$
∴$OE = OF。$