解:
(1) $\because x=1-\sqrt{2},y=1+\sqrt{2}$
$\therefore x+y=2,$$xy=(1-\sqrt{2})(1+\sqrt{2})=1-2=-1$
$\therefore \frac{1}{x}+\frac{1}{y}=\frac{x+y}{xy}=\frac{2}{-1}=-2$
(2) $x^2+y^2+xy+2x-2y$
$=(x+y)^2-xy+2(x-y)$
$\because x-y=(1-\sqrt{2})-(1+\sqrt{2})=-2\sqrt{2}$
$\therefore$ 原式$=2^2-(-1)+2×(-2\sqrt{2})$
$=4+1-4\sqrt{2}$
$=5-4\sqrt{2}$