解:$(2)$原式$=\frac {2}{x-y}+\frac {1}{x+y}-\frac {2}{x+y}-\frac {1}{x-y}$
$=\frac {1}{x-y}-\frac {1}{x+y}$
$=\frac {x+y-x+y}{(x+y)(x-y)}$
$=\frac {2y}{x²-y²}$
$(3)$根据定义$a\otimes b=2a+\frac {1}{b}$,可得:
$ 2\otimes (x-2)=4+\frac {1}{x-2}$,$1\otimes (4-2x)=2+\frac {1}{4-2x}$
$ $方程为$4+\frac {1}{x-2}=2+\frac {1}{4-2x}$
$ $移项整理得$2+\frac {1}{x-2}+\frac {1}{2(x-2)}=0$
$ $通分后得$2+\frac {3}{2(x-2)}=0$
$ $解得$x=\frac {5}{4}$
检验:当$x=\frac {5}{4}$时,$x-2≠0$,$4-2x≠0$
∴原方程的解是$x=\frac {5}{4}$