解:$(3)$
$\begin{aligned} \mathrm{原式}&=3x^2+2x-1-3x^2-x+\frac{x(x-1)}{(x+1)^2}÷\frac{x+1-2x}{x(x+1)}\\ &=x-1+\frac{x(x-1)}{(x+1)^2}·\frac{x(x+1)}{1-x}\\ &=x-1-\frac{x^2}{x+1}\\ &=\frac{x^2-1-x^2}{x+1}\\ &=-\frac{1}{x+1}, \end{aligned}$
$∵x=|-3|+(π-4)^0=3+1=4,$$∴$ 原式$=-\frac{1}{4+1}=-\frac{1}{5}$